My return to the Phils have been a long time coming. My hope is that I will be able to keep my emotional wants and desires “out of it” long enough for me to listen to the wants and desires of God. I know that God wants us to do ‘His’ will and not our own. After all, that’s what makes the most sense. God made us so he knows what he made us for.
As for my “girlfriend” (Malu) goes I would have to say I don’t believe in that sort of thing. It would be more accurate to say that I know that God is my father and I have allowed God to make the decision whether or not I should be single or be married. My soon-to-one-day-be marriage to Malu is the result of my listening for God’s will and not my own. That is if that every happens; only God knows.
I think the whole concept of boyfriends and girlfriends only gets singles in trouble with matters of purity. Malu is actually the one that introduced a book to me called “Choosing God’s Best” that reflected a lot of the things that I believe the Lord had already shown me. The purpose for our lives is to glorify God, so I know that the Lord has chosen someone for me that is none better for that purpose. If the only thing that draws a man to a woman (or visa versa) is that woman’s beauty, intelligence, humor, or other qualities, then I believe that relationship/marriage would be built on something substandard.
The only thing worth building a relationship or future marriage on is the same reason that anything should be built on; the foundation of Christ. And with that in mind I will also add that any man/woman that would allow God to make that decision for them would naturally find that they would find everything they need in the person that God had chosen for them (or even being single). In addition to being intelligent and beautiful, I also believe Malu will more importantly help me to do God’s will in ways that I don’t yet understand and only God knows.
December 14, 2008 at 7:06 pm |
Hello Tim,
I am so glad to hear what you and Malu have established together. The dating ‘game’ today is indeed substandard. When I was in high school I avoided it altogether, and now my family has developed a system of dating that undercuts the cultural norm. The book you read is good, too! Well, whenever God does allow you to culminate your desire to marry Malu, I know you both will be happy knowing that He was the initiator and is the center of it all. Romances like that are rare.
My blog is for teenage girls, which I teach in my home state, if you or Malu care to visit.
InHim
Phylicia
December 16, 2008 at 1:12 pm |
Thanks for your comment. And also for your posts that I had read that are quite encouraging regarding this topic as well; “Desperate Measures” and ” Courtship? Are we talking 1880?” :-) Take care and keep God first in everything … not just a consideration in what you do, but ‘everything’ in what you do :-)
November 16, 2009 at 1:27 pm |
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